Family

All you need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt – Charles M. Schulz

Can I ask an honest post Valentines question? Let’s say you have a daughter, I obviously can’t relate, but hear me out. Let’s say you have this beautiful, precious, daughter….. and it’s Valentine’s Day, or Sweetest Day, or her birthday or her anniversary…… and she calls you up and let’s you know that her husband or boyfriend didn’t get her anything, nor did he say “Happy Anniversary”, “Happy Birthday”, or “Happy (insert holiday here)”. Would you tell her, oh that’s ok because he took care of the kids that one time last week? Or he did the dishes for you, so don’t complain, doing housework is showing he loves you, it’s steady and reliable.

Now take a minute to think even deeper. Maybe you know that daughter of yours has a love language that is acts of service, so maybe him cleaning the house is sufficient. But maybe you got a girl (silently raising hand here) who likes a thoughtful gift here and there. Maybe you got a girl who wants to actually hear the words “I love you”. Maybe you got a needy woman-child (again I am embarrassingly raising my hand here) who wants some flowers, the dishes done, a thoughtful card telling me I am loved, a date night, with a kiss to top it off.

I am not saying I need that every day, but is it OK to want those things for my hypothetical daughter (or myself) a few times a year?

Because let me tell you, I am raising 3 boys, who I have given gifts to, I have showered them with words of love, given them too many hugs and kisses to count, I have served almost their every need so far, and I have smothered them with my presence since the day they were born. And you know who else does? Their dad. You know who else I shower all those things with? Their dad. You know who else showers me with those things? Their dad.

A few days ago, I witnessed a mass hysteria event at Kroger. Not only was every man in Brown County buying flowers but a good portion of them were complaining about doing it. Then I get on good old social media to people hating on Valentine’s Day. Cool. Cool. Cool. You do you.

But, girl, I will go ahead and be excited that despite the “made up holiday” bashing, that my husband cleaned my house and bought me flowers and wrote me a card.

I also had a talk with my boys about what they plan to get their future girlfriends on Valentine’s Day. Their answer was: Starbucks, flowers and to clean her car. Do you think I told them “that’s great! But what you really need to do is help her out every day and encourage and love her every day!”…… nope. Want to know why? Because that is what they should be doing every day anyways, and I tell them that all the time. Not as a gift to her, but because we should ALWAYS be trying to out serve our spouse. (seriously, listen to this message if you have time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5t2AvOutXBQ )

Guys, I am raising 3 boys who I want to serve their spouse everyday AND shower them with gifts and extra love every once in a while. I won’t apologize for encouraging it.

So shout out to the guys who:

Pick up kids from school

Coach their kids in sports

Do the dishes because their wives hate dirty dish water

Clean up puke

Take kids to the doctor

Schedule kids dentist appointments

Text their wives daily

Let her call them on her way home from work just to talk

Encourage her in her faith

Take her out on dates

Hold her hand in the car

AND

Buy her flowers on a made up holiday.

 

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Author: Sam

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